Love has since disappeared in so many marriages leaving the couples hanging on other elements/factors in their marriages. As they hang on, they go through untold physical and emotional trauma occasioned by abuse and which some times culminate into death. Millions of those who do not care about these other factors such as family, children, culture and creed have since thrown in the towel. Some are divorced while others are separated. Some are separated for a while, others are separated permanently. Continue reading
I have noticed that a lot of young people, women most especially are just interested in getting married. Well, women most especially because it is believed that a woman needs to marry at an earlier age than a man. In fact, there was a time family members used to chastise men who get married before the age of 35. Nobody raises an eyebrow for a 38 year old man who is single but very few women get to that age and still have peace of mind both within themselves and with those around her. Therefore, it is not out of place for a young woman to desire to get married early enough. There are many advantages attached to getting married early but that’s not our topic for today.
Many young men and women get into relationships, mismanage it and get out of it and give different reasons and excuses why it didn’t work. One of such excuses is that there are many men but few husbands; there are many women but few wives. While I do not advocate jumping into marriage, I’ve also come to Continue reading
Financial conflict in marriage is a common phenomenon all over the world. Some of the issues arise from the fact that what the family is making is not enough to cater for the family needs. Others, though they have enough issues with managing their income as a family. Many marriages have hit the rock on account of this while others are holding on for the sake of religious beliefs or their children. There are still many families out there who get it probably not so right but are able to manage the situation to an acceptable level. Let us look at some causes of financial crises in marriages and their plausible solutions. Continue reading
To love someone is like discovering a seed. The seed must be planted, watered and nurtured till it bears fruits. The seed may die before it germinates,; it might be pierced by thorns; it might be destroyed by unfavourable environment. But even in the midst of the ups and downs of life, some seeds germinate, grow and bear fruits. Only when two individuals acknowledge their imperfections that they can attain perfect love. Love is like two edged sword; it brings joy, it brings pain, it brings hope; yet it breeds fear. Love causes you to screw things up. Don’t worry, we all mess up for love! Your true lover is the one that opens your eyes to see your weaknesses. Be ready to see them and a knowledge them. Your heart will always be broken; but you must love again!
Below are teachings from great minds. Read on! Continue reading
Having written on what men want, (addressing the man’s need first, because when a man’s need is met, the woman is rest assured of having all she needs), it is time to open the container of the woman’s need.
Right from time immemorial, even though it’s more common in this generation, there has always been this misconception about the nature of women, their needs and desires, so much that we always conclude that they are the most difficult beings to please or deal with, hmm! Continue reading
I have come to understand that setbacks could be caused more by our actions and inactions (that is, the things we do and the things we fail to do) than external influences. We are in an era where marriages are crashing left right and center; relationships are breaking up and singles are afraid to get married. So many singles now find it difficult to be committed in any relationship. Marriage as an institution has become one of the most dysfunctional institutions in the world. A lot of marriages these days hinge their existence and survival on the children; some are holding on because of religious and cultural beliefs; others are just there believing that life itself has not been fair; so, why should marriage be beautiful. Marriage can actually be beautiful. Continue reading
It is no hidden fact that a woman’s earnest desire is to have the unfading, undivided and undying love of her man
One cannot underestimate the need for this love so much that at intervals, we want to be assured of the fact that no one or nothing has taken our place in his head. And to this end, we often pop the question, even when not necessary “Do you still love me?” Continue reading
I have always advocated breaking up a relationship rather than jumping into marriage only to start looking for a way out. Many people have got into marriage for several reasons or under several conditions. Some married out of pity; others for material gains. Some only wanted a change of status or title. Any marriage not built on mutual love is a failure from day one. It’s only a matter of time and it’ll collapse. Ignorance or lack of proper understanding of the vicissitudes of marriage is a major cause of this. This article sets out to share some of the signs that show you’re with the wrong person. Note that being a wrong person does not make you a bad person! It means there’s an issue of compatibility. You are also a perfect match to someone somewhere. Now, some of these reasons/signs are very obscure that you may not count them. The tendency that you might not see them as issues is very high but they portray serious danger. Below are a few of these signs. Continue reading
Whenever a celebration such as Valentine, Christmas, New Year etc draws nearer, there is this conspicuous avalanche of jokes and talks about how men pick up quarrels and fights with their spouses so they don’t have to spend. These may be seen as jokes but in reality, the situation of things in the country now has not only affected couples (married and about to marry) but has also lead to a lot of breakups. Many relationships today are boiling because a lot of people find it difficult to adjust their appetite on ostentatious desires. We also have many extended family members picking up fights here and there because cash flow has drastically reduced. Our purchasing power has been cut by more than half; so that the money in our hands appears so little compared to the huge responsibilities and demands we are surrounded with. In times like this, it is important to note that understanding becomes our best friend. We can still have our memorable celebrations at a very low cost. This is how it works. Continue reading
Call it online dating, social media love, internet love, they’re all the same. The common denominator is that you met your partner online. We have online dating sites and all sorts of match making organizations where those seeking for dates go to register and most times pay in order to be matched with someone. Sounds great right? Other forms of internet love include meeting someone on social media such as Facebook and a lot of others. Continue reading